Getting engaged is truly magical. It’s a romantic moment filled with joy, love, and happiness. However, many brides and happy couples we work with here at Anaheim Majestic Garden Hotel have told us how that the excitement can quickly turn to panic, exhaustion, and stress. The hours, days, and even weeks following an engagement can be a whirlwind as you share the news with family and friends, answer an endless stream of questions, and begin the early stages of wedding planning. Plus, there’s so much to do, it can be hard to even know where to start. Don’t panic! We’re here to help. Let’s take a step back and look at a few of the things you should do as soon when you first get engaged.
1. Savor the moment with your fiance.
The first thing you’ll want to do is celebrate just the two of you. As we mentioned above, an engagement can be incredibly overwhelming and you’re probably feeling a ton of emotions. Take a few deep breaths, collect your thoughts, and actually spend a few seconds enjoying the moment with your new fiance. Maybe enjoy a glass of champagne or a nice meal together. This is a moment you’ll never get back, so be sure to appreciate it before the craziness starts. All the other to-do’s can wait for a few more minutes.
2. Tell close family and friends…
In the midst of all the excitement, you may be eager to share the news (and photos of the ring) on your Instagram or Facebook. However, think twice about sharing the news on social media until you’ve told your close family and friends. They’ll probably want the opportunity to celebrate and congratulate you first before they see it online. Phone calls, video chats, or in-person conversations give you the chance to share the good news in a more personal, celebratory way!
3. …then share it on social.
Once you’ve talked to your nearest and dearest, go ahead, spread the love and post your good news anywhere and everywhere you want!
4. Journal about the engagement.
After you’ve shared the big news, we recommend taking some time to journal. Set the scene, share how you were feeling, and document how family and friends responded. The more detail, the better. This may sound silly, but writing things down can do wonders for your emotional well-being and help you organize the million thoughts that are floating around in your brain. Plus, it’s likely you’ll forget details about the engagement as time passes, so future you will appreciate being able to go back and relive one of the best moments of your life. This can also be a fun activity to do with your partner, since you’ll be able to read about the experience from his or her point of view.
5. Get the ring sized and insured.
If your ring doesn’t fit quite right, get it resized as soon as you can. The last thing you want is for it to accidentally slip off your finger. It’s also important to read through any warranty, cleaning, and maintenance information and note important dates in your calendar. You’ll also want to give your insurance agent a call and talk to them about adding your ring to your insurance policy. Better to be safe than sorry, right?
6. Get a manicure.
Once news of your engagement gets out, everyone is going to want to see the ring. Plus there will be pictures and you’ll spend a lot of time looking at the bling, so treat yourself to a manicure now, if that’s your thing!
7. Discuss a budget with your fiance.
There’s no doubt that weddings can be expensive. Budget talks can be uncomfortable, but it’s important to talk money before making any major wedding decisions. Making sure you and your fiance are on the same page about finances will help the rest of the wedding planning process go much smoother. If family members plan to chip in for the wedding, now is a good time to discuss that as well.
8. Set boundaries from the get-go.
Everyone is going to be chiming in with their two cents about your wedding, which is great but can also be overwhelming. It’s important to be kind and let others share in your big day, but be sure to set boundaries with well-meaning relatives and friends right away after you’re engaged. How you respond early on sets the tone for the rest of the wedding planning process, and possibly your future marriage. Be polite, especially with those that are truly just excited about your big day, but let them know how much input and involvement is appreciated and where you draw the line. It’ll save everyone a lot of time, frustration, and hurt feelings down the road.
9. Don’t make any promises.
With all the excitement and everyone throwing out ideas, it can be easy to make promises in the heat of the moment. However, it’s best not to make any “for sure” commitments in the weeks following your engagement. For example, you don’t want to tell a friend he or she can bring a plus-1 to the reception, only to go back on your word when you have to cut back your guest list due to budget or space. You also don’t want to commit to something that may not work for your fiance. Saying something like, “We’re still having so much fun planning, but I’ll keep you posted on details like that” or “I have to talk that over with [future spouse’s name], but I’ll let you know as soon as I can” are polite, friendly ways to buy yourself some time to mull things over. Wait until you’re a little further along in the wedding planning process and talk through decisions with your future spouse before making firm plans or promises.
10. Start compiling wedding ideas.
Now’s the time to start browsing magazines, Pinterest, blogs, and other wedding resources to figure out what you like and what might work within your budget. You shouldn’t necessarily book anything or put down a deposit right away — that will come soon enough — but you want to start developing a vision and compiling ideas for the big day. Then, when you start looking at potential wedding vendors, you’ll have good examples and ideas to share with them.
Start Planning Your Magical Wedding
Again, congratulations on getting engaged. We wish you all the best on your wedding and hope you enjoy this wonderful season of your relationship. If you need a little help getting organized, be sure to check out our wedding planning checklist, which will guide you through the months and days leading up to your wedding.
P.S. If you’re planning to get married in SoCal, we’d love to chat with you about how Anaheim Majestic Garden Hotel can help add a little extra magic to your wedding day.